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    <title>Relationships: anxiety</title>
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    <description><![CDATA[Jennifer: You need to talk to your prescribing doctor about your meds, as far as Food goes not so sure. Dealing with axiety is more about learnng good coping skills and overall health in my opionion.]]></description>
    <pubDate>Wed, 25 Jan 2012 08:04:21 MST</pubDate>
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    <title>Relationships: anxiety</title>
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    <description><![CDATA[michena: I suffer bad from anxiety, are there any other meds except for diazepam and antidepressants that can help me? I take diazepem and citalopram, (40mg), diazepam helps, but the more i take it, the less effects it has. I recently tried taking beta blockers, but they only hide the external effects of anxiety like sweating. Are there any food diets which allieve anxiety, any remedies, like herbal tea? I've read somewhere that certain food increase the level of seretonin.
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    <pubDate>Wed, 25 Jan 2012 03:05:23 MST</pubDate>
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    <title>Relationships: Relationship and 40 year age difference, lost cause?</title>
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    <description><![CDATA[Jennifer: like i said, sounds as if he is the one with the issues and he doesn't know what he wants.  up to you if you want to hold on but if he isn't going to change his mind, not sure what you are holding onto?]]></description>
    <pubDate>Wed, 11 Jan 2012 17:55:07 MST</pubDate>
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    <description><![CDATA[kfrazi13: I am just caught in a weird spot, part of me just wants to walk away because I know it's going to end in heart ache on my part, he refuses to change his mind and we can't change people...something I know all too well. Honestly it's scary to care so much for someone and yet they keep a wall up and put limitations on the relationship. But I care too much about him and feel too good with him to walk.]]></description>
    <pubDate>Wed, 11 Jan 2012 09:17:21 MST</pubDate>
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    <description><![CDATA[Jennifer: Think you should do what you feel is right for you. The only issue reaLly is him not wanting to go forward not you so he needs the push]]></description>
    <pubDate>Wed, 11 Jan 2012 08:59:36 MST</pubDate>
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    <description><![CDATA[kfrazi13: Before I even state this, I would ask you to keep an open mind. I am in a very untraditional romantic relationship with a man much older than me. I am 22. He is 60. The beginning of the relationship was a casual sort of situation, we both fully understood nothing could come of it; however, we connected and had a chemistry that is beyond believable. Before we realized it, we have now been together for over a year. We have a true warmth, intimacy, and trust that is something I would think wasn't possible between two people, especially people with our age difference. As we continue this relationship, our only disagreements center around the age difference. He insists we cannot get married, cannot have a future together. He encourages me to keep my eyes open to people my own age. I understand his point of view, he fears social pressures over our age and he also claims that he would be &quot;selfish for taking my life from me if we were to marry&quot;. I already feel this is a lost cause, but I would like some input if at possible. I am very much in love with him and, fully aware of all that it entails, do want a future with him. I will also say this, I am not a typical 22 year old, obviously, and really am compatible with him in a shocking way. Input? Should I push it? Or should I keep my eyes open? A little lost....]]></description>
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    <title>Children%27s-Issues: My 14 year old daughter is so hateful and mean to everyone</title>
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    <description><![CDATA[Anonymous: I am totally disagree that  my daughter is so hateful.]]></description>
    <pubDate>Wed, 11 Jan 2012 06:06:32 MST</pubDate>
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    <description><![CDATA[Jennifer: If someone could event a cure for a broken heart they would be loved by millions. For now the only thing that works is time and distance from the relationship.]]></description>
    <pubDate>Thu, 05 Jan 2012 07:58:29 MST</pubDate>
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    <description><![CDATA[Balletgeek18: No matter what I do, I can't get over my ex-boyfriend. We only dated for 5 1/2 months, but still, I really truly loved him. The reason we broke up was because he didn't like my parents. When he got a new girlfriend, it got me into a huge depression and I can't get out of it. He's 19 and in college and he's dating a sophomore in high school. (I'm 18 and in college as well). I've been in this depression for a few months now, and he's dated two girls since we've broken up. I have a long distance boyfriend, he helps me a little bit, but I can never get my ex-boyfriend out of my mind. I feel like I'm going insane and I always cry whenever anyone ever mentions him.  :(]]></description>
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    <description><![CDATA[Jennifer: I seem to be missing something because I don't get what is so bad about your story. You got upset and maybe a bit irrational.  If you are sUicidial you need to seek immediate counseling.]]></description>
    <pubDate>Mon, 19 Dec 2011 14:41:51 MST</pubDate>
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    <description><![CDATA[claire_30: I am a young woman from Latin America living and working in Sweden.

Last Thursday I had a two days trip with my job, where all the people from different locations had a meeting and a Christmas party afterwards. We have drank a lot during the dinner and after eating I went to get my coat and my key to go back to my hotel room.

I couldn't find my key and I got desperate and started to cry because I thought someone had gotten my key like to make a joke or something. 

After all my &quot;scene&quot; I realized the key was in my pocket. And I sad sorry and told that I had found my key. I feel so horrible that I could just die now and I would be happier. My boss called me on Saturday to ask how I was, very polite and everything.

I sad sorry again and again. But I think it is so horrible what I did that I can't think in something more embarrassed than this. I feel that I always do something wrong, but this time it was the extreme. I was expecting to get a permanent job in this place, but after that, I just feel it is never gonna happen.

It would be so good if I could disappear! :-([/u]]]></description>
    <pubDate>Mon, 19 Dec 2011 10:13:24 MST</pubDate>
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    <description><![CDATA[Jennifer: Hey
Never a dull moment in your life!  Could she be suffering from post pardum depression? If so she needs professional help if not are there any new mom support groups that she can get involved with?

As far as the sex goes, that is a new parent thing and stress, tired all the time, etc etc might take aWhile for that to get back to normal.]]></description>
    <pubDate>Fri, 02 Dec 2011 11:00:28 MST</pubDate>
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    <description><![CDATA[jojo: Hi thanks for your help. It has been some time since I posted . The house has been busy preparing for baby, doctor Appts. My work and picking up the slack for them. It's been a roller coaster of emotions and tears . Her and I have done amazingly well, but as I suspected hubby not somuch. He has been stressed and angry. He has made life difficult for both of us girls and for our relationship with each other. Just before birth on nov 21st I had finally had my fill. I was ready to quit. I told him his anger wasgetting worse and he was pushing me away. She was barely talking to him as well. He let it out that he was having thoughts of his own abandonment at 3 months old by his mother. He was revisiting all that pain and anger.  He mellowed out after that and then the following week baby Hadee showed up by c-section as he was full breach. Dad was very happy and a changed person. Full of love and appreciation to me for all my help and assistance our first week home with baby. Mom is very inexperienced and laid back. Dad is diaper changing . And taking baby care from time he gets home to morning except for feed times. He is now exhausted and getting a bit grumpy. Mom is not doing as well as I thought. She is not properly feeding and first dr visit found him with weight loss dry skin and dehydrated. I advised several times but was not really heard by her. She feeds him lays him on his back right after without proper burping and puts his head in a china saucer to &quot; make it flat&quot; the baby gets fussy spits up cries a lot and is hungry. She let him fo 5 hrs before breast feeding once mostly 4. Now since dr every 2 hrs. I feel obligated to be baby's voice but feel like I'm not taken seriously enough. I try to explain my theories to dad so he can tell mom. I hold and cuddle, do not change diapers but I burp him when I hold him and always get a good one then he sleeps in my arms. She rarely holds him cuz he's on that darn saucer after he eats and gets changed. She went to dr with nohi g not even a diaper. Dr had to borrow one and tape it on. She is not so much bonded and too laid back. I'm frustrated cuz he's a baby and needs more. I just don't see the love . He is definitely bonded. It's great to see. I'm reaching a point to keep mouth shut. Though I feel baby needs me to intervene. After 7 days of 100% helping I took some time for myself last night . Dad wanted me to change diaper I did not so rest of night he didn't talk to me and this am not as &quot;appreciative&quot; where I was not so helpful last night. Very quiet. He is exhausted and he sees that she is not there. He told her he feels like he is taking care of two babies. I feel like if I help too much it will be expected. I'd rather just hold him and enjoy. I do all the laundry theirs and babys. Till she can do stairs. So that's a part of what's going on. We have not had a sexual contact since 1st week in October. He tells me he has no feelings for that right now. ??? What's that all about?]]></description>
    <pubDate>Fri, 02 Dec 2011 07:22:22 MST</pubDate>
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    <description><![CDATA[Jennifer: your treatment your decisions, eventually you will find what you need or you will keep looking]]></description>
    <pubDate>Fri, 11 Nov 2011 19:26:23 MST</pubDate>
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    <description><![CDATA[niccoleranae: -----------]]></description>
    <pubDate>Fri, 11 Nov 2011 17:40:42 MST</pubDate>
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    <description><![CDATA[Jennifer: ok]]></description>
    <pubDate>Fri, 11 Nov 2011 16:35:34 MST</pubDate>
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    <pubDate>Fri, 11 Nov 2011 14:03:12 MST</pubDate>
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    <description><![CDATA[Jennifer: does she deserve the benefit of the doubt?  she might be sick and I doubt it has anything to do with you, more something going on with her.  

As far as your feelings, that is going to take time, you have been using to cope with your feelings for a long time so when something uncomfortable comes up, you don't know how to respond because you never learned.  that happens when you start using when you are young in your teens.

i'm sure court coming up is scary and not being able to trust your therapist is also scary but you will learn how to deal with them just like you have learned how to deal with everything else, with time.]]></description>
    <pubDate>Fri, 11 Nov 2011 12:00:30 MST</pubDate>
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    <pubDate>Fri, 11 Nov 2011 11:23:06 MST</pubDate>
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    <description><![CDATA[Jennifer: do you consider what he did cheating?  do you want a relationship with him and if so is he willing to have the kind of relationship that you want/need?]]></description>
    <pubDate>Tue, 18 Oct 2011 09:59:26 MDT</pubDate>
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    <title>Relationships: Partner with Cybersex addiction (very long sorry)</title>
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    <description><![CDATA[Jennifer: do you consider what he did cheating?  do you want a relationship with him and if so is he willing to have the kind of relationship that you want/need?]]></description>
    <pubDate>Tue, 18 Oct 2011 09:53:42 MDT</pubDate>
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    <description><![CDATA[claire_30: Hi,

My boyfriend and me have known each other for over 10 years and we have been living together for about 6 years.

We started to live together after we moved from Latin America to Sweden in 2005. Im 32 now and he is 36. We have no children.

For sometime ago I realized that he chats with girls over the Internet and he watches porn a lot. He normally receives images of girls and/or exchange pics.

After I caught him for the first time (like three years ago or more) he became smarter and better to hide the things on the computer. 

But I know that sometimes he wakes up in the middle of the night to watch porn. I thought it was like normal, because men tend to watch more porn than women. But since we practically never have sex (like 4 times per year) I realized that something was going on. First I thought he was maybe having an affair. But he is always with me (except for business trips or vacations), he calls me a lot, we are all the time talking to each other over Skype when we are traveling etc.

He likes to go to Indonesia to surfing and to travel alone, I believe he probably meets prostitutes when he is there. He also stays hours looking photos of girls on facebook, even girls from his job. Another day he asked me to change my facebook picture, because it was not beautiful. 

He stays most of his time online looking for pictures of girls; sometimes he stays on the computer the whole morning or evening. I dont really know how he was able to finish his PhD. Even at night when we come from the job or school he sits by my side when Im watching TV and he brings the computer. 

He has rejected me since we moved to Sweden. During this time I tried my best to forget how my relationship situation was horrible.  I learned Swedish, I went to the university, I got a job, I learned to draw, I opened a company etc. He has always been sweet, but we have been living like cousins all the time. We became friends actually. He becomes also friends with my friends, but Ive never met his friends. Its like he has something to hide. 

Some time ago (I believe it started after his last trip to Indonesia) his anus started to itch. He scratches his ass very often during the night. I dont really know if it is a disease and he never goes to the doctor.  Im afraid he got it with someone during his trips.

During these six years I was taking anti pregnancy pills, because of my acne and it takes my sex desire away and I think thats why the lack of sex hasnt made me going crazy for this time.

Also, every time we have sex is horrible. He cant really do anything right; besides he is completely egoist in bed. Sometimes it doesnt take longer than 3 minutes. We are no way connected sexually and Im normally glad when it finishes. Its rare for him to have an erection. He always says how dirty he is in bed but with me he has always been kind of slow, very different from my other boyfriends. I gave him a book, about how to please a woman, to get connected etc. but he never read it, nor cared about it.

In June this year I decided to stop the pills to be able to enjoy my sex life better.  I was determined to have sex at least once a week when he would come back from a trip. My sex desire is back and Ive been feeling very sexy. In September he was away the whole month and during this time I started to feel attracted to other guys, but at the same time I was feeling guilty to have this kind of emotions and I started to think about our life and how un-normal it is. I started to think that I needed to end our relationship specially because he maybe thinks the same way but maybe is afraid to heart my feelings.  

I started to investigate him again and I notice that he continues to invite girls to chat on msn all the time and some people that know him behave very strange when talking to me. Like they feel sorry for me.  Then BANG! I realized that something was really wrong.  

I questioned him and he finally said that he is cybersex addicted; he said he needs help and was crying like a baby, he said the computer is devil etc. I felt sorry for him, but I wanted to give the same pain back so he can feel a little bit of what Im feeling. 

After he was back of his trip in September someone tagged a photo of him on facebook with some girls. He really didnt appear in the photo, just the girls. He also exchanged some emails with some girls he met there. Not really sexy emails, but it definitely had some romance in that. He also went to Russia in the beginning of October and he also exchanged personal emails and facebook messages with some girls. One night he slept away in a friends house he said.

Last week his boss sent me some old photos so I could fix a slide as a surprise for him, and I found out he also had a kind of  girlfriend before we moved to Sweden. And three days ago, I was in a party and three different people told me how strong I was and if I thought that Fabio was really that nice guy.

He was also motivating a co-worker to stay together with another girl (this guy has girlfriend). At the end the girl didnt had sex with him and my boyfriend said the he should learn with him. 

Yesterday, when I came from my job, I got drunk and I physically spank him so much as I could. I also searched on Google for how to kill someone painfully and slowly and left the computer opened so he would really see that I was planed to kill him with my anger. He got really afraid. 

Im better today because I got rid of that anger and Im able to think more clear now. We have a life in common, he is my best friend, but I will never be able to have sex with him again. Im dreaming to find another person and I dont really know how it will happen, because every man I know is already married. This is really frustrating because I dont want to hurt another woman. 

To make things worse I got a contract to a new apartment; I did this while he was away in September with the hope to live a better romantic life. Now Im completely regretted of finding another place to live and it is one more thing to worry about.  How I will get rid of this new apartment, how will I be able to survive alone in Sweden and how will I face my friends and family after our separation? I need to renew my visa in January and I have to become a steady employee to be able to get my work visa. 

I need help to know what I should do.  Does anyone think that it is possible to work this relationship?]]></description>
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    <description><![CDATA[Jennifer: sounds to me that you are working on your issues and you have your dream team there to keep you in line, hard to step out of line when you have that many people watching over you.  i'm rooting for you!]]></description>
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    <description><![CDATA[niccoleranae: -----------]]></description>
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    <description><![CDATA[Jennifer: you are working on it by knowing how much to tell and to trust.  it is really hard to trust someone completely and that has to be built up.  there are two ways to look at it, one is that you don't trust and built up or you trust completely and are always disappointed.  i think you are on the better track with being cautious about who to trust and doing the right thing in your treatment.]]></description>
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