sister and I

MONGO · Joined: 23 Jan 2011 Posts: 46

when I was 13 and my sister was 15
we " experimented "

now that I am 51 and she is ill
I have un answered questions ...
what do I do ??

Jennifer · Site Admin Joined: 27 May 2007 Posts: 2356

Hey
Not sure what you mean by "experimentation" and your sister is ill? Need a bit further information on what is going on so I can help you.

MONGO · Joined: 23 Jan 2011 Posts: 46

we did the looking and peeking ,touchy feely stuff to begin with
then it led to more
both my parents worked full time so we were alone alot
she now has heart problems and I tried to ask her why things happenned back then
she did not want to discuss it

Jennifer · Site Admin Joined: 27 May 2007 Posts: 2356

why do you want to talk about it?

MONGO · Joined: 23 Jan 2011 Posts: 46

I guess I want to know why it went to the level it did
and to set some thing straight in my head
about some guilt issues

Jennifer · Site Admin Joined: 27 May 2007 Posts: 2356

okay, that is your issue and you need to deal with it within yourself to get rid of those guilt feelings, if your sister does not want to talk about it, then you still need to work it out for yourself

MONGO · Joined: 23 Jan 2011 Posts: 46

yes
she is the one who started it
I know it was wrong
I just am confused on why she did it, and what was on her mind
it will make me more at ease I guess if i had an idea....
Is this normal for kids ??

Jennifer · Site Admin Joined: 27 May 2007 Posts: 2356

kids do experiment, was it just one time?

MONGO · Joined: 23 Jan 2011 Posts: 46

yes ... she called me in her room
she was on her bed
she told me to take my shorts off and get on top of her

Jennifer · Site Admin Joined: 27 May 2007 Posts: 2356

so how do you want to get past it if she won't talk about it?

MONGO · Joined: 23 Jan 2011 Posts: 46

I guess i am just trying to understand what brought it on and what her intentions were

she never said why
I dont know what I was feeling but I did it
how common is it ??

Jennifer · Site Admin Joined: 27 May 2007 Posts: 2356

can't really answer that question how common is this because that is not known. experimentation is natural as a young person. if it was just one time then I would have to believe her intentions were to experiment and figure things out.

MONGO · Joined: 23 Jan 2011 Posts: 46

ok
I was pretty passive kid
and it was all a new experience
I just went along with what I was feeling
other things happenned over time but thet was just kinda shocking for me

Jennifer · Site Admin Joined: 27 May 2007 Posts: 2356

has it preventing you from having relationships? or anything else in your life

MONGO · Joined: 23 Jan 2011 Posts: 46

I have had a few relationshis
10 yrs was longest
I have never talked about it with anyone
not something u can mention to friends

I dont think it made me feel any sexual problems
any one else ever heard of it ??