need a "professional smack in the head" again

[please help]

Hello Jennifer,

You have been very kind in setting me straight with my situation. Under Please Help, I have posted a few times about being married to an older widow who kept demanding money I do not have. We have been seperated for over 1 year and I have not talked to her in almost 6 months. I have mailed her a few certified letters asking her to contact me and let me know her intentions about our marriage. I also had a marriage counselor contact her and she told couselor she wanted a divorce but had no money to file.

I also wrote my step kids a few times letting them know I am their step dad and offering to help with their college.

I have gotten no response from any of them.

Am I right in thinking before a divorce happens there should be some dialogue?


Also, I am sure she painted me black to kids and I thought I had a decent relationship especially with younger one. But what do you think of neither of them calling me?

Lastly, could this whole thing simply have been a "ruse" like the Gypsies do? You know the Sweetheart scams. I do not think she is a Gypsy but it does seem she has some of the behavior traits and she may have told kids "this guy is here because we need money so be nice to him".

I started psychotherapy as I keep having this circular conversation with her in my mind and I know its not healthy. Any suggestions on how to stop having conversations with her in my mind?


Thanks in advance once again for any guidance you can offer. This has been brutal.

[Jennifer]

aren't you working with a therapist? if so they should be helping you through this. no there does not need to be a conversation they have already happened and nothing has changed.

yes she could have poisoned the kids against you. you need to find a way to let go. you seem to need to find closure on your own.