asked him to leave and now want him back desperatly

[ind3p3d3nt]

We had a good time.....we are taking things very slowly...he hasnt moved back in yet and he wants us to go to counseling. I told him that it isnt cheap and if possible we would have to find a free counseling place, so if you have any suggestions it would be greatly appreciated!!!!!!!!!!and last but not least there were no fights and my son was so happy to see us back in the same house even if it was just for that evening
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[Jennifer]

glad to hear that you are thinking about counseling. if you have an univeristy near you that has a psychology program they will offer a sliding scale fee based on your income, not so sure about free. They will be students but i did it and it is probably your best option. Clinics offer sliding scale as well, but there are usually wait times since not that many places do. i would suggest looking into those options for you.

taking it slow is good and getting outside help is even better.

[ind3p3d3nt]

Thanks for the info about the counseling services I will defenitely look into those options!!!!!!!!But, there is one more thing I didnt mention yesterday and that is that he wants another baby and the thing is I had already made my appointment to get my tubes tied and he drops this bomb on me. My son is almost 11 years old and I thought I had already made up my mind about this topic but once he brought this up I started to rethink it and it just so happens my dr had an emergency and had to cancel the procedure so I am either going to reschedulel or have another baby after 11 years....how bout that for discussion!!!!!!!!
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[Jennifer]

talking about babies is not taking things slow?? delaying your procedure is okay, but people try to save their relationships by having children and it NEVER works, so please don't fall into that trap. Look into counseling and deal with your long standing issues before you even bring up more kids. I'm not saying its not an option but there is no reason to rush into anything. You two need to fix what is wrong with your relationship before you bring anything else into it.

[ind3p3d3nt]

I think that is exactly what I was thinking!!!!!!!!!!!!And I honestly dont think I want anymore children....Its hard enough with just one child and my son is almost 11 so I really dont want to start all over again with a newborn.....I think i'm definetly going to reschedule that appointment asap!!!!!!!!And I am taking things very slowly and we will see what happens!!!wish me luck
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[Jennifer]

good luck!! but you don't need it. you have a great head on your shoulders and have come along way. you are doing great

[ind3p3d3nt]

I really appreciate everything you have done to help me get through this tough time in my life.......At a time when i was at my lowest point and i thought my life was over i stumbled along this site and just started pouring my guts out to anyone or everyone who would listen, I was note used to doing that and i can honestly say that it feels alot better to talk it out and get it off your chest than to let it build up inside you. I hope people read this and maybe take something away from it that can help you because i have read alot of different topics and i have taken a little something from everyone and it has helped me tremendously......thank you
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