Was Cheated On And Can't Let Go

[rob88]

I have been involved in a few relationships throughout high school. Two out of my three relationships ended because I was cheated on, and more than one twice in my last relationship. My first relationship lasted about two and a half months then she cheated on me with one of my close friends. I just let that brush of because it was only my freshman year of high school but it did hurt to know that my best friend would do something like that to me. After that had happened my uncle passed away and that was a hard time for me because he was a second father to me and my godfather. About a year after his passing I went out with another girl for about a month and it didn't work because her parents did not like me at all. Soon after I went out with another girl. This was close to the end of my sophomore year in hight school. She meant the world to me. She was the first girl i ever felt any affection toward and we had a lot in common. The first year we had together was great we did a lot together and i fell in love with her and she helped me come out of the slump I was in because of the passing of my uncle. This did not last long after that. She started to become controlling and possessive over me. She wouldn't let me go out with my friends and go anywhere with out calling me every ten minutes. We where going out for about a year and a half when i found out she cheated on me for the first time. I was crushed. However, she apologized and swore that she would never do it again. I believed her and we got back together. We lasted about 8 months after that. I found her one night making out with a guy in the back of the stage at my school. I broke up with her. A few weeks later i found out from a friend that she had cheated on me over five different times with three guys. I was heartbroken to know that someone who i thought loved me could do this to me. I was depressed for months and just couldn't look at another girl the same. But a year and a half went by and i went out with another girl. We have been together for about three years and she is great. But I am having trouble trusting her because of what my ex did. I know she is different than my ex. I have known my current girl friend since I was in 7th grade and we've been friends for a while. I know she is different and she won't cheat on me but i just can't trust her some how. Its starting to hurt our relationship and i just don't know how to move on and forget the past. I would check her phone and call her every five minutes to make sure she wasn't with someone else. She has never done anything to hurt me and she isn't the least bit controlling like my ex was. I just don't know how to let go and move on so we can be happy.

[Jennifer]

In short, GET OVER YOUR EX. You have a chance at happiness, then go for it. Each time you get involved in a relationship, you have the potential to get hurt but all of it keeps you learning and loving.