Renew our relationship....help?

[audrey08]

My boyfriend (BF) and I have been off and on for the last seven years with a break of a year and half in between. When we started to date, we would literally talk for hours and hours from family to job to hobbies just like any new relationship.

We had issues that should probably be discussed in another time/topic but we talked the issues out. Any way, I am unable to find a job and his business took a major dump the last year. So financially we are hurting bad. Every time we talk lately is about money and that always lead to some harsh words between us.

We have agreed to just talk in general terms but we can't think of anything to talk about. He said that everything he wants to talk about it goes back to money and he has nothing else to really talk about. I feel like I am doing all the talking between us and really I am tired of talking if he doesn't respond back. I just don't know what to really talk about with him. We have been together for seven years and I pretty much know alot him and he pretty much know me better than anyone out there. I feel that this relationship is going downhill fast because we are not talking talking. He said that he doesn't know me any better than last year and me visa versa. I am just lost ...

[Jennifer]

hello:
it seems as if your dilema is one that many people are having. have you tried talking to him about money instead of trying not too and see what happens. sounds as if he is frustrated with his situation and doesn't know how to handle things.

[audrey08]

yea we do talk about finances still. At least every other day or more. It seems that it is all we talk about. Other than that, I feel like I have work at getting him to even say good morning and good night with me. I guess I should also explain he works out of town a lot.
And that I found that out that he has a friend who is a girl that he talks and text to a lot and some times he talks to her more than me. He swears up and down nothing beyond friendship is happening between them. But just seems inappropriate for them to be talking so much. And he has absolutely nothing to say to me. I asked about what they talk about and he said nothing about finances and talking with her makes him not think about it.

[Jennifer]

Are you still comitted to the relationship or do you want it to end?

[audrey08]

I am committed to the relationship. Just hear from so many people to just end it. I should not be treated this way. But I realize that he has made some mistakes. So have I. No one is perfect. But yes I want our relationship to continue.

[Jennifer]

since it has been alittle while since your last post, update on what is going on in your life/relationship