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Jennifer · Site Admin Joined: 27 May 2007 Posts: 2356

sounds as if you have 20 years of therapy to work through so just know this will take some time.

Explain the sexual problems. You can go into details as you feel comfortable. You say its because your bored or depression or ?? not sure or maybe your not sure where they are coming from

have you and your wife ever gone to counseling to work on this? glad to hear that the medication that you take works for you and that you can get by, but i am sure that you want to do more than just get by.

peterj · Joined: 02 Feb 2009 Posts: 4

Jennifer · Site Admin Joined: 27 May 2007 Posts: 2356

Okay
So what do you want to try now? What was it that made you want to marry your wife? Explain how your sexual functioning makes you hate your partner or are you just projecting and really hate yourself?

peterj · Joined: 02 Feb 2009 Posts: 4

Jennifer · Site Admin Joined: 27 May 2007 Posts: 2356

hey
sounds as if you have been struggling with this for a long time and when you have been struggling so long the struggle sometimes becomes the problem more than the actual problem.

how is your relationship with your wife on other levels? there are three levels of a relationship, passion, intimacy and friendship. Not all relationships have all three, some have one, or two at most. do you have the intimacy and friendship with your wife.

I did not say hate, i said disguested or if i didn't that is what i meant. You say that after a while you could not look at your wife and you did answer my question that it was yourself that you could not look at

peterj · Joined: 02 Feb 2009 Posts: 4

Jennifer · Site Admin Joined: 27 May 2007 Posts: 2356

Glad to hear that you have a balance in your life with your wife. I am not a sex counselor so no i don't really have any new ideas. Lots of people have reasons for sexual dsyfuntion and that is on a case for case bases. You do not need new in your relatonship, just in your sexual relationships so there is something there that is preventing you maybe from emotionally connecting with another person. Not really sure, I respond to what you say and what I read and it might come across different to you, but whatever I respond that is what I am getting from your posts.