Lack of Intimacy

[hhutchi0]

So basically, I have been in an almost 2 year relationship with my boyfriend. I Love him more than anything and see myself with him for the rest of my life. We truly care deeply about each other. I feel like he is my soul mate. The only problem is that i dont know how to be intimate. It is starting to become a big problem to where he has thought about looking to other women to fill that void.
He has more experience with sex. I have only had sex a few times before i met him. We only have sex like twice a month. Its not that I dont want to, its just that I feel like I dont know what im doing and uncomfortable.
He says I make him feel unwanted. I dont know what to do because i love him and dont want us to break up over something i should know how to do. I thought everyone knew how to be intimate. I dont though. I feel so stupid and like I just messed up a great relationship over not having sex with him enough and kissing him more.


Please Help. How do I fix this? What can I do to bring intimacy into our relationship? How do I become more knowlegable about sex and what to do and not to do?

Thank you
Holly

[Jennifer]

you need to work with this on him. you need to be able to talk about sex intimacy openly and you need to learn to be okay with your body. Do you masterbate? If not you should start by exploring who you are and what you need/want sexually. Is it just this relationship or have you always been this way?

[hhutchi0]

I do not masterbate. It kind of freaks me out and the thought of it embarrasses me. I dont even know how to do it either. I have always been this way. Its just this time around, i truly love the person. I dont want to push him away bc i cant get comfortable in bed...

[Jennifer]

it is more about being comfortable with yourself and who you are. you need to do what you are comfortable with and move from there.

[hhutchi0]

how do i deal with him watching pornography?

[Jennifer]

how do you feel aabout it?