Is it me?

[Geriferi]

I am having alot of worries lately. My last boyfriend cheated on me several times and lied alot. He left me and I haven't had closer on it. I thought I was over the whole thing but it seems lately that it keeps coming up.

I have been with my curent boyfriend for little over 2 years now. We were friends for several years. He found out that his wife was cheating on him. I was there for him through it all and he was there for me through my ordeal. He moved to TN to be with me. We have been trying to save up money for the devorce and when we get enough something happens. We thought our problems were just money and they would work out.

Well I went through a bad depression and moved back to GA. I was not healthy at the time and needed some time to get myself back together. After about a month I moved back to TN. I felt better about my self and seemed healthier. We did great for a few weeks. Then I found text messages on his phone. There were 2 different girls that I hadn't heard him talk about or never met. When I asked him about them we started getting into fights. He finaly explainded that they were ladies from work and that there was nothing to worry about.

A few weeks later his wife emails him and wants to talk. I understood they need to talk beacuse they have 2 kids together. He call her to talk to the kids and all was well. Then he tell me one night that he got a text from her tell him that she still loves him and that she wants him back.
I get worried. Should I not be?
Now I am back in GA again with my family and we tallk.....no fight over the phone.
He has told me that I am not allowed to see the kids (who I love dearly) because his wife doesn't want drama around them. I understand that but I have not ever caused drama around the kids.
He tells me that the problem with him and his wife are not my problems and that I am causing all the problems.
I worry all the time that he is going to go back to her and not tell me.
I feel like he is hiding things from me, when I ask him questions he gets mad or blames me, or says he is tired and needs to go to bed.

Am I wrong to think that his problems with her effect me?
Am I wrong to worry that something will happen between them?
I don't know what to do any more.

[Jennifer]

hey
a couple of things. firstly what's with moving from tn to ga and back? are you two a couple? what seems to be standing in your way of him getting a divorce.

no it is not wrong to be hurt but he seems to be using that as an excuse to move away from you and put the blame on you.

do you love him? do you want to be with him?

[Geriferi]

My family lives in GA. I am here now beacuse I (not him) got kicked out of the place we were living. Beacuse we weren't married and other reasons.
He hasn't gotten his divorce because of money issues. Everytime we got the money together the car would break down and we would have to get it fixed or something.

I do love him, but because I get the feeling he is hiding things from me I am loseing the trust that I though I had in him. I want to be with him, but I can't stand not knowing what is going on and wondering if there is more going on than he is telling me.

I don't know how I would be if he did the same things to me that my ex did.

I don't want to lose him but we can't take the fighting over his wife.

[Jennifer]

I am going to say two things.
1. He is not your ex
2. Stop treating him as your ex or you will push him into that behavior.

these are your trust issues that you are pushing onto him. stop it and start enjoying what you have.