Im back with my ex

bridgette15 · Joined: 23 Jan 2009 Posts: 27

I been dating this guy on and off for 3 years. I decieded recently to get back with him and start fresh in the relationship. I told myself i would let my guard down completly, but he still wont bring his down and I have this feeling he is hiding something big from me. I dont feel security like i have in the past, but i want to have a future with him. Do you have any suggestions to break this wall between us.

Jennifer · Site Admin Joined: 27 May 2007 Posts: 2356

what is the reason for the on again, off again stuff and what made you commit to the relationship now? he might not be hiding anything, might just be who he is and you have not noticed in the past. how long have you been trying at the relationship this time?

bridgette15 · Joined: 23 Jan 2009 Posts: 27

we been on and off for three years. I always broke up with him in the past. Most of the time i broke up with him was because i thought he was cheating and i just needed time to myself. I decided I wanted to be with him in the end is because he never gave up on us. I always have and i want to stick with him. He knows me best and he is my best friend.

Jennifer · Site Admin Joined: 27 May 2007 Posts: 2356

was he cheating or was that just you not wanting to believe in him or your relationship? Do you have doubts about other things? Being with someone should be because you want too, not because someone cares enough to take you back after you break up with him.

What makes you keep on going back?

bridgette15 · Joined: 23 Jan 2009 Posts: 27

I srongly accussed him of cheating, but it was just a feeling because he stay far from me. He sometimes would take forever to get back to me. I had believed he was lying to me constantly. I decided to let my insecurties not get the best of me and try to trust him. I really dont know what keeps me going back to him. I know I love him though

Jennifer · Site Admin Joined: 27 May 2007 Posts: 2356

okay, he hasn't been proven to cheat and he needs to understand that his behaviors make it seem as if he is cheating. talk to him and make him understand that even though he is not cheating, his behaviors concern you and you would like for the both of you to be able to openly communicate when something is wrong.