I dont even know where to start...

[esnipes28717]

My husbad is currently in Iraq. We have been married for 4 months. The past couple of weeks we have been having some problems and I think its actually all me. I dont know how to change myself. I am insecure lately and constant ly asking him for reassurance that he loves me and it seems I have made a habit out of it. He will be back in a week and he wants to hang out with his friends after spending time with me of course and this is totally normal but he says I am making him feel like I want to lock him up so no one can see him but I dont. I do feel like I am the one who has been sitting here and waiting for him, not all of these other people. I do feel a little greedy, i have just missed him so much. I have been so afraid since he has been gone that he wouldnt feel the same about me when he came back as when he left. I have also been really down lately about haveing a hard time finding a job that is more mature for me. Im 27 and I really want to get into a better position on life. I feel like Im so behind in life. Im getting older, I have an insignificant job. I am just feeling stuck and empty and my husband is what keeps me going. I guess thats too much pressure to puy on osmeone but I just cant find anything else to keep me going. I want to change but I dont know where to start or how to do so. Im having memory troubles, I want to be more assertive to assist me in getting a good job, i am obsessive about planning things and all of these things are bothering him and I want to change. Any ideas?

[Jennifer]

Sounds as if you answered your own question, work on yourself and appreciate the time that you have with your husband. Appreciate him for who he is and how much he loves you. You need to love yourself and find your place in this world, he cannot do that for you, just support you in what you need to do.