I don't know what to do

[bridgette15]

I want to become the one that accepts her past but let the past stay in the past

[Jennifer]

sounds good, what is preventing you from doing this?

[bridgette15]

i think my past

[Jennifer]

okay, then it is time to deal with it and put it in the past for good. any ideas on how you can do that.

[bridgette15]

no but i was hoping you had some ideas

[Jennifer]

i think you are doing it by talking it out and learning from it.

[bridgette15]

I hope so

[Jennifer]

start talking and start telling me how you are feeling

[bridgette15]

I sometimes feel that I will never have a good relationship and i wont find the one for me. I am around females who let their husbands/boy friends treat them like dirt and they still stay. I dont want to be like them. I dont want to keep having sex when im not in love with anyone. I want to learn to be celibate till I find someone im in love with. I dont wanna make the same mistakes. I want to save myself from my past before its too late. its hard trying to make changes for myself when im scared that it may not be best for me. I know I will never foget that I was molested but I want to forgive though because It happend and know that it wont happen again.Its just kinda hard for me to fully open up i guess beacause I dont really know what to say, but I want to say something.

[Jennifer]

i think what you said was great! and there is no wrong answer for figuring out how you feel. if you do wait and be celibate until you heal, you will have more of a chance to find the good guy!

you are right that you will never forget, but at some point it does not have to be the driving force in your life and you will be able to share without being afraid. you are very brave for trying to deal with this instead of repeating the same patterns.