Husband is a complete PR**CK! Plz Help me find a way out!

[eastcoastmods]

Been with this lying A-hole for almost 10 yrs now! Why do u ask? Because I chose my own destiny!! He is mentally, verbally, emotionally and sometimes physically abusive! (NEVER hit me, just pushed me around here & there!)

I am now 37 yrs old & he is 35 yrs old. I wanted a normal relationship with a man! I really just wanted another baby because my oldest son was 10 yrs old at the time. He is my 2nd marriage and boy did I marry for the wrong reasons! He refused to give me a child unless I married him. Thank God for my 2nd son, I would not trade him in for the world, BUT boy did I pick the wrong father for him!! OMG!

LIES since the beginning...I tried to make it work and love him again but it just cannot happen! We met online in 2000, I just got out of a relationship 5 months prior. Things were good & so was the sex. Eventually he moved in with me. In 2003 I became pregnant. He got into a mishap with the law & demanded I get an abortion in case he were to go to jail & did not want his child to be fatherless. I personally thought that was a COP OUT! I thought about leaving him anyway & truly did not believe in abortion but it had to be done!

I told him never to come near me again after what he made me do! I despised him and never wanted to see him again! Everything after that was a blur to me...so we wound up staying together, he never went to jail and now I resented him even more for making me have an abortion!

He went for anger management and seemed to be getting a little better. I tolerated him and stayed with him none the less. He kept a low profile and not too much anger or verbal abuse from him like he used to lash out at me.

Mean while, my clock was ticking and I told him to make a move or I would find someone else. I wanted marriage and a family. He finally proposed Christmas 2004 and we were married October 2005 (Las Vegas Wedding)...we actually had a good time & tried for a baby right away. I got pregnant within 3 months and had our son October 2006.

The day I brought my son home, he made me cry!! I had really bad postpartum depression!! From that point on is when the hatred started to build rapidly! NOW the verbal, mental & emotional abuse started coming back into the relationship FULL FORCE!

In December 2008 I bought a house with him and now I just realized that if he leaves HOW the hell will I be able to pay the mortgage on my own?? My older son offers to come live with me and help me out with the mortgage (my older son cant stand my husband)...but my husband will NOT allow my older son to come live with us because he has issues with him and I fear they will have vicious fights! (My older son is 20 yrs old & has been waiting for the day to kick my husbands ass!)

I just need OUT and need a little guidance! I know some attorneys and I am embarrassed to ask them for their opinion! I should probably go to someone I dont know! Any suggestions will be appreciated!! I try to ignore him and when I do he gets upset and screams at me like a child in front of my 3 yr old son! Then my 3 yr old screams & repeats what my husband says! This is totally dysfunctional and wish I grew a set of balls to just kick him out!

Thanks for reading & sorry for the long post!

[Jennifer]

hey
I can give you suggestions but you are the one that will need to find the strength to leave him and get the protection you need. have yu considered a women's abuse shelter? sounds like your older son is giving you an option to help with the mortgage.

[eastcoastmods]

Thanks for responding. No I have not contacted a womens abuse shelter. I know what I have to do for myself and my children! He actually found this post that I posted on here and printed it out to try and use it against my older son to have him arrested and feels threatened by it! I laughed in his face!!

He feels threatened by my 20 yr old son and NOT anything I have written on here? I am glad he snooped and found this forum I belittled him on. HEY....if he is reading this right now I hope he knows what a PIECE of CRAP I think he is! And that he is NOT a real man in my eyes!

I will use the "Secret" to vanish him from my life for good! Or maybe he will one day give himself a heart attack from screaming at me so much that he will croak and leave me to be a rich widow! lol...one can only dream!
I dont want him dead, I just want him to leave me alone!

[Jennifer]

this forum is not for unsafe behavior and if you and your husband are going to use it for that then i will have to delete your profile. Be safe and do what you need to do to protect yourself and find a way out.