Frustration

[Eitak]

Ok. So I may be younger than most of the people on the board. But I still need help, and Im hoping to find it here. I dont know what I'll do if I can't.

So I've got a steady boyfriend, right? And he's absolutely perfect. He's not controlling. He's not abusive. He doesn't make me do anything I dont want to do. Ever. He watches after me. He takes care of me. He hardly ever lets me down. He's number one in his class. He's gorgeous. He's perfect.

But Im not. I get jealous easily. Im always hurting his feelings and making things worse. I have too much pride to ever say Im sorry to him. But worst of all, Im too scared to talk about this to him because I already whine enough.

I'm trying to convince myself that he's too good for me and that it would be better for him if I just let him go. But any time I even say anything like that to him, he gets extremely upset with me.

I also have a problem with being too attached. Im nervous when he's not with me. Because I dont know what he's doing or where he is. I dont want to feel like that. I want him to do what he wants, and I want to be able to do what I want without thinking about him all the time.

What do you think? Should I just let him go? Or am I being stupid? Does anyone have any advice about me being too attached? Or how I can kind of detach myself from him a little?

[Jennifer]

Hello:
Whether you let him go or stay with him, if you do not deal with this you will find another person to be like this with. So, if he is the goods, then stay with him and work on yourself.

Jealous behaviors comes from lack of self-esteem. Why do you doubt yourself? What do you have to be jealous of? Remember that these emotions come from you, not from him.

Do not share this with him, because he will then have a right to get mad. Sounds like he is not doing anything to make you jealous, is he? Do you have friends other than your boyfriend? Siblings, hows your household?

[Eitak]

we've talked about it a time or two. and he always tells me im the only one he wants and i have no competition. but it doesnt always seem like that.


i have a lot of guy friends. ive never related well to girls for some reason. its just so much easier to be friends with guys. and he's the same way with girls. he doesnt have many guy friends, only girls. and i have one brother. he's not very nice to me.

[Jennifer]

How is the relationship going?