Crush gone too far

[jenvarajm]

To whom it may concern,

It has been over a year since I'd realized that I was developing feelings for a guy who I will call X. I'd thought he had felt the same for me, so I'd let myself fall deeper into my feelings for him. My close friends had kept on telling me that he did not like me, but I didn't want to believe them because I thought there were 'signs' that seem like he liked me, too.

X and I had a good starting relationship to begin with... We talked a bit and chatted every now and then. Nothing too bad, but the moment I'd started liking him everything started going wrong. Apparently, everything that I did to try to contact him or to talk to him did not go well.

However, I did bother him too much to the point that he has told me to never contact him ever again. I am sad and crushed that we can never have the relationship like we did before. I didn't want to lose him as a friend, too. I didn't want to be an outsider, again. He and I have the same mutual friends, but us, 2, can not interact with each other. It is stupid and silly.

I want to get over him, but how? I've gotten myself too deep and my feelings were strong. I feel like I am losing something, but I've already lost him already. I can't fix it anymore because I've already ruined everything. I wish things could have gone better, and that I had not fallen so hard. I wish I could take it all back and forget it all. Is it possible?

Jen.

[Jennifer]

of course it is possible and time will heal all. he was not the right guy for you and in your life you will find a lot of not so right guys and then THE ONE and all will just click and it will be easy. Doesn't help the pain that you are going through right now, but I would do all the things that you normally do when you go through a break up, whether its eat ice cream, exercise, write, read a book, etc, etc, anything to keep your mind off of him and day by day it will get easier to the point that it is better.

[jenvarajm]

Thank you very much for your help. I've talked to other counselors, but they weren't very helpful or friendly. I'll try hard to move on, but I will see him again b/c we have the same group of friends. I just have to be strong.

[Jennifer]

you can avoid him if you choose, don't need to be that strong it will get better, you can still hang with your friends just not with him.