Can't get over it

Misty · Joined: 07 Mar 2009 Posts: 1

My husband had an affair last year with his co worker and I can't get over it. He was still cheating after we found out that I was pregnant. I had complications during my pregnancy and started bleeding and left me bleeding at home to go to his girlfriend's place to have sex. He also kept cheating after she had contacted me to tell me he was having an affair. He used to tell her all about our fights and they posted their relationship all over facebook. I am so hurt and humiliated. She got pregnant by him and then miscarried. She is now claiming that she is pregnant by him again. She has also tested positive for an STD. It has been 5 months since he stopped talking to her and I have decided to stay with him and try to work it out but I need advice on how to get over it and move on. He claims that it was a mistake and that it's over. Please help me to move on....
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Misty

EmotionalWreck · Joined: 06 Mar 2009 Posts: 8 Location: Long Island

I don't think you should get over it. I think you should move on with yourself and your baby, not him. What good can he bring to the relationship if he made you feel the way you felt. Your pregnant, this is the time the other half should be there the most for you. And he could'nt be there at your desperate time of need, what says he will be there when that baby needs something. Putting yourself and your child in that spot is not worth the disappointment. It's easy to forgive, but dont ever forget. He was selfish and thought of his "needs" and took care of what he "needed". It''s time for you to be selfish, and think of yourself and your child... forget his needs and wants.

EmotionalWreck · Joined: 06 Mar 2009 Posts: 8 Location: Long Island

I don't think you should get over it. I think you should move on with yourself and your baby, not him. What good can he bring to the relationship if he made you feel the way you felt. Your pregnant, this is the time the other half should be there the most for you. And he could'nt be there at your desperate time of need, what says he will be there when that baby needs something. Putting yourself and your child in that spot is not worth the disappointment. It's easy to forgive, but dont ever forget. He was selfish and thought of his "needs" and took care of what he "needed". It''s time for you to be selfish, and think of yourself and your child... forget his needs and wants.

Jennifer · Site Admin Joined: 27 May 2007 Posts: 2356

I agree with emotional wreck, doesn't seem as if there is anything to "get" over just get on with it. You deserve better, anybody deseves better.