Am I desperate, in love, or just plain dumb.

hopelesslynluv · Joined: 05 Sep 2008 Posts: 2

Well my problem is I have been in love with this man for the last 8 years. We have been on and off for the majority of that time due to indiscretions on both our parts. We recently just had our 2nd child. Prior to me getting preg this time we were "working on our relationship." After I told him I was going to have the baby - he wanted me not to - everything changed and he said he had realized prior to me getting preg that he just didn't love me like he used to. So now he doesn't want to be with me. In addition, he may have made another baby while I was preg and we were not speaking, but I'm not even sure if the girl is preg or not. I feel like I need to move on for myself and my children, but I can't seem to be happy with anyone else. Even though I have found guys that treat me exactly the way I want to be treated. I feel I am in denial about our situation and that I am hopelessly trying to make him be with me. I need to get over him but I don't want to I want us to be together. How can I deal with that. I am not even willing to take steps to get over him because I don't want to.
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Jennifer · Site Admin Joined: 27 May 2007 Posts: 2356

Hey
Sounds like you are in a difficult situation and you know that you are the only one to get out of it. Before you jump into any relationship, you need to recognize that you are the only one that makes you happy.

What do you see in him? Why do you want to be with him so much?

hopelesslynluv · Joined: 05 Sep 2008 Posts: 2

I don't know. I love him. I guess I can just remember the way things used to be and that's why I want him. He is a good guy, but I feel like he is going through something right now and maybe that is why he is treating e the way he is. I don't know, but I intend on having a talk with him about all this today or maybe tomorrow so I will keep you updated. I mean I really love him and part of me feels likes we are supposed to be together. We were high school sweethearts. We have 2 kids together and it's like no matter what we both do to get away from or leave the other alone, we always end up back together.
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Jennifer · Site Admin Joined: 27 May 2007 Posts: 2356

I have this saying that "When you have to start making excuses for the ones that you love, it is time to move on" You are justifying his behavior and making excuses for him. That is not okay for you and your kids. How do you want to raise your kids? Did you talk to him yet?