Cut the ties

[Lisa Webb]

My kids stayed with my in-laws on July 3rd and ended up spending the night. My mother in-law asked if my kids could go to a cousins the next day and my husband said no, we will pick them up in the morning. The next morning he heads to her house to pick up kids and gave a phone call to let her know he was on his way. No one answers, call her cell and she is at the cousins house after we said "no". Acted like it was no big deal except it was a half hour the other direction. There was a party going on and my kids where very upset they had to leave and the cousins upset they had to go. So we look like the bad guys to our kids. I was livid, yelling at my husband that she's up to her old tricks of doing whatever she wants without checking with us. My husband explained why I was so upset and she didn't think there was any harm done, she said she was sorry to my husband and said it would never happen again.I never got a phone call or an apology. 2 months later, In-laws promised to take kids to hershey park with other grandkids.Again they spend the night to get up early and head to the park for the day. According to my kids, they got up early with the sister in-law calling saying it looked like rain,(chance of)So, they did not go. My husband and I went about our day ALL day and decide to give a call to see how everything is going. We call, thats when we find out they did not go and she would drop them off shortly. What if we where not near our home? She did however call the sister and let her know her kids where not going and when mu husband asked why he did not get a call she says that "well, you might want to come pick them up" again acted like nothing happened.She dropped them off at our house with no apology and slammed the door when she left. Mu husband had told her the night before "call me if you don't go, maybe I will take them". It did rain for 30-45 minutes at the park and she had told us and the kids it rained all day. When my husband had called to see how there day was going she got off the phone with him and says to my 9 yr old "Daddy never said to call him did he".So when my son comes in the door with her he is holding his finger to his lip like don't say anything, because whatever she put in his head or overheard between in-laws did not want to escalate. My husband did not talk to her for two week until she called on his birthday and acted like nothing was wrong. My husband says she apologized to him and suggest her to do the same for me. Did not hear one thing from her.She shows up today at my sons football game and does not even say hello, but is talking to mu husband. I am the one who had to tuck my kids in the night the did not go to the park, crying they did not go. This woman has been cruel since I met her and nothing you say changes anything.This is only 2 examples of her actions. She has my kids lie to us about stupid things.My husband think we need to sit and talk, I have tried the past ten years but she proves herself over and over. Husband says I have shut her out.Well if you kick a dog long enough, do they come back. I feel my husband has chosen her over me for many years allowing her to do these things.He does tell her off but it happens over and over agian.I feel like I should leave my husband because this will not change and I can't take anymore.She makes you feel all your anger is in your head and she did nothing wrong. My husband says he is in the middle. He knows she plays these games and thats even harder on me.All i get is "Isaid my peace with her". Like that make me feel better. Please help

[Jennifer]

Oh, the in-laws. There is no real way to win with them. Overly involved moms are hard pressed to let go of their sons and if they cannot control the sons well they try to control the kids.

What resolution is your husband proposing when he says that he wants to sit down and talk it out?