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abig24fan1993 · Joined: 18 Apr 2008 Posts: 18

Hello,
I feel that my boss likes my co worker better. He talkes to me some but he is with her all the time. How do I get over that?? After i get over it, I will feel lots better about work. Him and I have fun together when we are both in the office, but I just think he likes her better.
Everyone should like people the same. That's my opinion. When we are together, we talk about her when she is not around us. Just about her marriage and lifestyle. Which I dont say anything at work. But then it makes me wonder what they say about me when they are together. Sometimes I wish I could be invisible so I could listen to people when I am not at work. I know it shouldnt bother me, but it does.
Let me know what you think.
Michelle

andy · Joined: 12 Mar 2008 Posts: 4 Location: Tampa

Michelle,

Yeah, I know what you mean. Sometimes my boss gives me a harder time than he would give others in the same circumstance. Favoritism sucks.

What I'm wondering is if your boss attracted to your co-worker and maybe his liking her better is actually a bad thing for him, and good for you at the same time, ya know? And if he's talking to you about her marriage and lifestyle, well, that just kinda confirms what I'm guessing. I'd stay way clear of that one... it sounds like a train wreck looking for a place to happen and if it does happen Shocked

, you might get to find out if your next boss likes you more than her. All in all, it sounds like he's the one being inappropriate. Consider yourself the lucky one.

Ya know, I wish I were invisible too sometimes. But I know what would happen, I'd get the chance to listen in just to find out that the conversations I was so interested in are actually quite lame. I think its time to switch to fiction. I'm going to the library. Wink

abig24fan1993 · Joined: 18 Apr 2008 Posts: 18

Hello,
That's what I was thinking also, but didnt want to say anything. I am glad I am staying out of that one. They work together alot. Which is part of their job, but I think alittle to much sometimes. He seems to talk to her more than I.

Glad I'm not the only one thinking that. Smile

They are out again. So, I just thought I would see what you would've said to me if you wrote back.

One time he came back with grass on his back and her hair had some on it also. He said his leg muscel starting hurting. I thought yeah right. But didnt say anything.

Pretty strange.

Thanks for you advice you have given me. I'm glad I found you.
Hope my questions arent to stupid.

Have a great day. Going to Chicago with my boyfriend tomorrow.

Michelle

Jennifer · Site Admin Joined: 27 May 2007 Posts: 2356

Sounds like a smart move staying out of it. Boyfriend? Do tell? What is he like, how is your relationship wit him?

abig24fan1993 · Joined: 18 Apr 2008 Posts: 18

He's a great guy. We do alot of stuff together and go to alot of places. He talks about marriage but never ask me. So, it doesnt matter to me. His family loves me.

You help me out alot with my problems. Sorry I havent written back sooner. I am feeling alot better about myself. My mind is concentrating on my work at work and not more on the people aroiund me and trying to be popular with my boss or other co workers.

I will keep writing you if I need to get something off my chest.

Thank you Jennifer your a real big help.
Michelle

Jennifer · Site Admin Joined: 27 May 2007 Posts: 2356

Glad to hear that you are doing better about things. Keep it up and have fun!!

abig24fan1993 · Joined: 18 Apr 2008 Posts: 18

I have been doing better about my work situation. Only concentrate on me. I dont even email anyone anymore.

But there's one problem. I do have to see the person again that I emailed things too that she didnt like and that's why I got into trouble. What should I do when I see her? Should I just be myself and pretend it never happened and go with my own thoughts, or not go to the meeting at all?
Michelle

Jennifer · Site Admin Joined: 27 May 2007 Posts: 2356

Hey
Glad that you are focusing on work and not the other stuff. As all of that will go away, so will the feeling about the emails. It is not a big deal that you emailed someone. so let it go and if you cannot then you will have to find a way to say your sorry. Glad that you are still doing well Very Happy

abig24fan1993 · Joined: 18 Apr 2008 Posts: 18

I would like to find another way to say I am sorry. Because I feel we arent the best of friends anymore like when she first met me. That's why I dont really want to go to this meeting. I have to see what my board members say first if they will let me go or not. I wont be sad if they dont let me go.
Michelle

Jennifer · Site Admin Joined: 27 May 2007 Posts: 2356

It takes courage to say you are sorry and when you do it is about feeling better about yourself not if the other person accepts your forgiveness or not. You will feel better when you say you are sorry. Say that you were going through sometime at the time and you took it out on her and that you want to put it behind you. Just do it!!! Good luck, let me know how it goes.

abig24fan1993 · Joined: 18 Apr 2008 Posts: 18

How can I get my spriits up when I go to work? I love my job, but I know it's another boring day at work. Especially when the co worker and I dont talk much because she is busier than I am. We used to talk alot. But not anymore. She has so many projects going on. And we dong talk or see each other on the weekend cause she has a family.
What should I do with this stupid problem?
Michelel

Jennifer · Site Admin Joined: 27 May 2007 Posts: 2356

Well, you can try to come up with ideas on how to make your day more interesting. I sometimes make up stories about people to make time fly. People are interesting if you allow yourself time to explore them. Let me know if you can come up with any of your own ideas.

abig24fan1993 · Joined: 18 Apr 2008 Posts: 18

good day.
I am supposed to go to a training tomorrow and he asked if I was going bymelf (Boss) And I told him no.

But, this is what really made me mad. I was going to take my co worker out to teach her again on what we are supposed to be learning for our job and he told me that it's not part of her job. Her job is more technical, not to go out to test water. That really got me agravated. It kinda hurt me inside. I"m one of those people that when they get mad, all their strength comes back and hurt real easy inside. If that makes any since.

So now, I have a mandatory meeting that I have to go to cause all the other ones are far away and gas is expensive. I'm going to this one on Monday and not going to anymore district work stuff.

Hope all th is makes since. Cause people are going in and out of my office and I dont want any of them to know I need help with situations.

Jennifer · Site Admin Joined: 27 May 2007 Posts: 2356

Sounds like your boss thinks highly of you and does not want you to take on anymore work than you should. The way the world works is if you are good at what you do, then people will ask you to do more of it and the ones that are not good, just drag along. Struggling with this issue or trying to change it takes too much effort and in the end you are better off being who you are. Take this as a compliment and have a fun work day Very Happy

abig24fan1993 · Joined: 18 Apr 2008 Posts: 18

Ok, I wanted to let you know that I went to a meeting with the girl that was there that I told you about (with me emailing). She was there and I didnt say a word to her. I didnt even set by her. There's another meeting next week, but this one is not mandatory. I'm not going to that one.

Do you think it was a good idea I didnt talk to her? She called me on the cell phone after the meeting, but I didnt pick it up.

Thanks for listening.
Michelle