girl or boy?

kristie · Joined: 10 Aug 2008 Posts: 43

Yes I suppose your right. she has chosen to stay with me despite all of this. you may be right. she might be more ok with this than I am. I see other husbands and watch friends and family and wonder to myself..why me...why am I the one putting her thru this..when for all I know I have friends who are going thru the same thing..who knows right..I mean u think you know somone but do we ever really know anyone..or what happens behind closed doors...My wife tells me to do it if it makes me happy..she tells me to go out if that is what I want..to join a support group or start my own..and yet each time I have the feeling to get dressed and go out I can't bring myself to talk to her about it...why is that...

Jennifer · Site Admin Joined: 27 May 2007 Posts: 2356

you need to ask yourself that, I do not think it has to do with her, more with you and your insecurities of men/women and what people/yourself think of you.

kristie · Joined: 10 Aug 2008 Posts: 43

I have asked myself that many times and just can't figure it out...I know I enjoy dressing up and feeling femme..but I don't like the feeling of putting her in a situation of having to deal with a husband who dresses as a girl...I think back to the da we met and the day we married...she believed in her heart that she was marrying a man..a normal man..not a crossdresser..and I ask myself if I had told ther all this then would she still have stayed with me...of course its not possible to have told her since none of this came to be until after we were married.

Jennifer · Site Admin Joined: 27 May 2007 Posts: 2356

Agreed, but the guilt that you carry prevents you from being who you want to be and she has accepted you for who you are, now you just need to. Have a great thanksgiving!

kristie · Joined: 10 Aug 2008 Posts: 43

yes you are right. Thank you Dr. You have yourself a wonderful holiday season..to you and your family..