Is this OCD? or what? I need help

[crazyredhedchick]

Ok

I am having some serious problems and i really really desperately need some help.

Basically - i think i may be suffering from some kind of compulsive lying disorder or something - i don't know.

I lie - and i don't even know i'm doing it - its like i'm kinda watching someone else doing what i'm doing or saying what i'm saying - and there is nothing i can do to stop it.

I have tried, tried so hard - i lie about ridiculous things - even really inconsequential things - sometimes i even lie about things, where it would be more beneficial to me to tell the truth.

I desperately want to be able to stop this - its effecting my life so badly ... its causing serious problems in my relationship and my day to day life.

Any information, advice any thing will be so appreciated.

[Jennifer]

well, at least you know what the problem is, the next step is to figure out why you lie all the time. most people lie because it is either easier, protect themselves or protect others. do you know why you lie? how old are you? i'm assuming your an adult, have you done this since you were a kid and have you ever had serious consequences for your actions. do you have kids and how do you treat them if they lie to you?

[crazyredhedchick]

Thank you for your reply.

I am 26 years old - I haven't always done this - the earliest recollection i have of doing this i around the age of 12/13 - no recollection of ever doing it before that

I have tried to work out why i do it - but it never makes any sense - as i said, sometimes i do it when its completely unnecessary - it was the reason my first marriage ended because my husband couldn't deal with it and at that point i couldn't accept that i had a problem. I've caused or been responsible for some awful things ...

But i can't work out why i do it and because of that i don't know how to stop - to give an example - i have lied about what i had to eat .... no reason for it, no reason at all ....

I do not have children.

[Jennifer]

okay, lets do a for example, if you did have children, how would you deal with them lying?

[crazyredhedchick]

Ok

I think i'd try and understand what made them lie in the first place - try to find out the underlying reason behind the lie

[Jennifer]

okay, then go for it, you need to figure out why you do this and the underlinning reason, iknow you say there is not one, but there is, maybe your mind won't let you realize it but there is, once you figure that out then you can start to stop.