I have a friend that needs help...

[TwinkleJ]

I would like some advice about an experience I'm having with a friend of mine. I wasn't sure what topic to post this under, but here it goes:

My friend just got home from being in the hospital, and then in a personal care home because she broke both her ankles. She was sitting on a bar stool at her house and was addressing her Christmas cards when her feet fell asleep, she stood up, and her weight (250lbs) came down on her ankles and they both snapped (they said that when your feet are asleep, your muscles relax and weren't supporting her ankles like they should)!
Anyway, she had to have a bunch of surgeries, and because she lives on the 2nd floor, she couldn't go home so they sent her to a nursing home 45 minutes from here.

She's dating this guy who is very good to her, and she's had a lot of problems (mostly from her mental instability) but was doing very well before this all happened. Well, she's home now, and I went to visit her after not seeing her since before Christmas (my kids have been sick off and on and I couldn't take them to the home unless they were in perfect health). When I got there, her boyfriend met me outside and said that she hadn't slept in a few days, to be prepared because she was acting very strangely (and I thought, so why did you say it was okay to come over?)

She was sitting on their recliner, and immediately asked me if she could use my cell phone...She sat there, holding three cellphones and their house phone and kept calling each phone from the other. She said that her boyfriend was cheating on her, and he was trying to make her look like she was crazy. She said that he had done something that had locked her phone so that she couldn't call certain numbers, and when she called customer service, she swore she heard kids in the background, and was pretty much trying to say there was some sort of conspiracy against her.

Now, I have no idea if her boyfriend was cheating on her, but he's 45 years old, and I don't think he's running around on her, but I guess you never know, but she was acting so strange! She barely talked to us the entire hour and 1/2 that we were there, and didn't acknowledge my kids or anything. She was talking funny like she was on some sort of uppers, and I know she is prescribed something for ADHD, so think she took too much of whatever, but she swore she wasn't on drugs (other than Ibuprofen). I tried asking her what exactly she thought was going on, and what I could get from her, in random clips, was that she had text messaged some girl and talked to her like she was her boyfriend, and had the girl ready to meet him, but I couldn't get from her if she suggested the meeting, or the girl did...but she said that when her boyfriend realized what was going on, he took the phone, and ever since then, it was not working right.

She kept saying she was sending me proof, but she never sent me anything, and also kept saying to check the Verizon website (which is the cell phone carrier). She said that he had another number too, that he had both a 312 number, and a 321 number, and thought that when she was calling the 312 number, she could hear another phone ringing in the house at the same time as his phone (even though the only phone ringing was the 312 phone). She also said that he had got oral sex for money by his ex wife who lives at least an hour away. I asked her why his ex wife would pay him to give him oral sex and if she meant he paid her, and she didn't know what to say, then confusingly said yes. I said why would he pay someone to give him a BJ when you're right here and would do it for free? And again, she didn't know what to say.

I never once tried to make her feel crazy, I tried to ask her questions to try to understand what she thought was going on, but when I would ask her things about it that would disapprove her theory, she would change the subject and get all weird again. It was like talking to a 3 year old! Finally, I couldn't take it anymore, and didn't want my kids to be around it, and left. On the way out, her boyfriend said that he was very concerned and wanted to call the police to take her to the hospital for evaluation and to get whatever drugs are in her system out.

She called me later and kept saying the same things as earlier...She said that he had said, "See, even your best friend thinks you're crazy" and I told her I never thought she was crazy, but she had to realize that she's acting very strange, and I was there for over an hour and she never once said anything to either of my kids! She changed the subject, and would not admit that she was acting strangely and still swore that all she had taken was Ibuprofen. I don't know what to do or say to her. I kept telling her that it's not that I don't believe her, but I think that she's taking it way to hard if he is cheating on her, and she should get some sleep, get her thoughts together, and present her case to him in the morning after they were both rested. She didn't want to hear it, and I finally said I had to go and hung up. I have been trying to call today and it's been busy. Can you tell what's wrong with her, and give me some advice on how to deal with it? I feel bad because if there is something going on with him, she has no one else to help her, and I don't know how to approach the situation. What is wrong with her? HELP!
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[Jennifer]

it could be that the drugs that she has been on while in rehab have messed with her mental stability. they should take a while to be out of her system and hopefully she will stabilize and go back to normal. if not, then she will need to take something to help her out.

sounds as if she is manic, but i nor you can make that diagnosis nor can I. her boyfriend should keep an eye on her and contact her doctor if he feels she is out of control.