mother daughter relationship

[blb1234]

Hi thank you for allowing me on your forum.
I attended weekly psychodynamic group psychotherapy for 15 months. I feel that a can of worms has been opened and the worms are still there. One of my issues is with my mother. I am angry as hell for the lack of quality attention she paid me when i was growing up and mention one of her boyfriends and i see red. My mother came to stay with me for a week and i verbally abused her so much - digging up the past and telling her i am like i am because of how little quality attention she paid me and found her boyfriends more important than building a sound esteem for me to see me through life. as you can imagine i am full of remorse/guilt now. she is old now and reaching the stage where somebody will have to take care of her. I said the most awful things to her. At the same time my mother has some sort of attachment to me, phoning me all the time and not my sister. I have the feeling she expects more from me because i am a single parent and my sister is married /on verge of devorce. I dont want to be this nasty ugly person to her or anybody but I find her very tiresome and negative and meddling. My sister is leaning on me because of her divorce. This is too much when i am trying to recover from my breakdown and get my life back on track. I have gone 3 steps back because of her stay with me. My sister seems to have an avoidance personality as far as my mom is concerned. I feel so sad for my mom she is so meddling and irritating that nobody wants her living with them. She has to go into a home for the elderly and I feel so bad about this. Do you think my explosion with her was some sort of cathartic experience. she said sorry only after i insisted.

[Jennifer]

Hey
Glad to see you are working on your issues. It seems as if your mom and sister Are running your life in the aspect of emmotional baggage. You are going to need to let go of the past and work on yourself and your future independently of your family in Order to get that stuff out of you. Anger can weigh a person down and make it hard to focus. Need to find a way to let the anger go.