Will i ever get along with my mother?

[prelandra14]

Me and my mom haven't been getting along everscince i was pretty much born. All because of my stupid father cheating on my mom. Sometimes i ask myself , am i just some sort of mistake? As i grew up my mom didn't really take care of me as much, it was mostly my grandfather. It pisses me off cause she gets mad at the littlest things i do, like i remember when i was little i accidently spilled water on the kitchen floor, and when i was cooking lunch i mixed soysauce and eggs together, and how old was i , 7??? My mom always told me it wasn't her, it was her sickness. I hated how she would always hit me for the stupidest reasons. And sometimes she would lock herself in her room crying throwing everything everywhere, and sometimes i blame myself. My mom always told me i couldn't do anything right, and "you never make me happy", and the one i hate the most your exactly like your father, you should just leave and go with him. And one time i got in a fight with my mom i actually did end up leaving, then she was like okay go ahead, but then my mom realize that she did want me home, but still i didn't want to go home. So she called the cops on me and they made me go home, and my mom forbidded me to ever see my cousins, aunts, uncles, and my grandparents, well mostly my family. I was severely deppressed i asked myself what could i do without them. My mom promised me from now on we were going to be happy together, but yet everything is the same. I don't want to deal with any crap anymore. My mom is suicidal she tried commiting suicide a couple of times the only times i can remember was my mom slitting her wrist, second time she kicked me out of the car and she drove off i don't know how many miles per hour, but she drove off really fast. then the second time she took a whole bottle of tylenol then she actually ended up in the hospital. I can't deal with my mom like this i'm only a kid, i have alot more problems too. I hate it when she says those things cause i try to make her happy but all she could say is, why can't you be more like your brother? She always tells me why am i so messed up, and sometimes i tell myself in my head,"I blame you mom." I did whatever it took just so my mom could hold me in her arms and tell me it's okay. I've done suicide, drugs, drinking, running away, and all she does is yell at me and say how stupid i am. Will i ever get along with my mother?
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Ray P.

[Jennifer]

Please forgive me if you have already told me but how old are you?

sounds as if your mom needs professional help and has issues of her own and not really sure how to tell you to get along with her because she is in her own world and needs to find some sort of peace.

the only thing you can do is learn to accept her for who she is and try to seperat yourself from her. i'm sure she puts her moods onto you and that is very dangerous for the both of you.

[prelandra14]

I am only 14 and i had to put up with her almost all my life already. Me and my mom have been through therapy before but we stopped cause we couldn't afford it
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Ray P.

[Jennifer]

you are unfortuntely not old enough to know how to seperate yourself from your mom, but also shouldn't be responsible for her behavior either. could you afford therapy now? what about counselors at school?

[prelandra14]

yea i do talk to the school counselors sometimes
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Ray P.

[Jennifer]

is it helpful?

[prelandra14]

it's alright but i haven't been doing it much
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Ray P.

[Jennifer]

try doing it some more, your mom has her own issues to work on, but you need to talk it out and make sure you are okay.