Therapy confusion

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Hi. I am new to this forum. I have a few question about my feelings about therapy that are making unsure about continuing. Was hoping maybe someone could help that knows about this stuff.

First a little background. I have several issues that I am going to be working on in therapy. My children have learning disorders that require them to go to a therapist that does testing and monitoring for these disorders. The therapist they go to I really trust him so I decided to start seeing him myself. He's not a "therapist" but a phsychiatrist. He can not perscribe meds so either phychiatrist or physcologist. I forget which is which. Anyway I had my first meeting and we discussed conflict of intrest concerns I had. We both agreed that we felt there would be none and if there ever was we would let each other know.

So moving ahead a few visit's I have gotten past the initial assesments and goal setting stuff and started the therapy part I guess you could call it.
This is where I get confused. I thought all this was supposed to make me feel better. This past Monday afterwards I was o.k until later that night when I was alone. I started thinking about it and I just broke down. First he wants me to try and assert myself in conflict situations. I do not like conflict so I try and make everyone happy. So I don't stand up for myself or tell them what I really think. Well he wants me to do that. Doesn't he get how hard that is. How is this suppose to work if I can't tell him that I can't do it. That is the catch22 of all this. I can't tell him no. Sinse I don't want to let him down. So why is this therapy stuff making me feel worse. Is it supposed to. I am an open book person and the stuff I have told him I have told others but with him it hurt to tell it. With others it was like just giving them information.

So anyway the next day I had to take my children to his office for their visit and while I tended to their needs I started to get mad at him. When I left I had feelings of anger for him making me upset yesterday and the night before.

So my questions are
1. Do you feel worse before you start to feel better. and
2. Is it normal to get mad about your therapist making you feel worse?
3. Or is this all a conflict of intrest?

[Jennifer]

hey
think its a combination of conflict of interest and not a good fit for you. yes change is hard and challenging but you and your therapist need to work on goals together your goals not his for you.

the fact that he sees your kids makes it hard to say no to him. maybe there is someone else in his practice you can see.

therapy is uncomfortable for most because change only occurs if you change but that should be a gradually process. hopefuly you can discuss your feelings with him and you two can continue at a omfortable place.