Caught Red Handed

[prelandra14]

Okay, good news i guess i wasn't pregnant afterall, but bad news i am caught red handed! My dad caught me with my boyfriend in the bedroom, we weren't doing anything we were just asleep, i could've sworn the door in my room was locked but then all of a sudden my dad walks in. He got sooo pissed off he told my boyfriend to get up and too get out then he had a talk with me. He asked me if i've been having sex with him, i admitted Yes Dad i am having sex with him. Then he asked me why the hell was he in my room, i told him he just needed someone too talk to, he needs me. Then he asked me why do i care about him so much then i told him i love him. Then he was like you don't know what love is, your just a kid there will be plenty when you grow up, then i was so mad i just wanted to punch him in the face. My boyfriend was always there for me and he's never ever left me he was always by my side, we've been bestfriends for like 2 years and we've been going out for like a year already, okay yea i know i'm a kid and i may not know as much as my dad does but i know for a fact that i love him and he loves me, if it's not love then i don't know what it is? And the thing that pissed me off the most was that he told me to never see that guy ever again, i just looked at him then i broke down and began crying.He told me I never want to see that guy again, he is not welcome in my house. He never told my mother cause he knows that she would go coo coo bananas on me and she'll beat the crap out of me, and he didnt want my cousins or no one to call the cops on my mom cause she already has a history of beating me. But he knows i still talk to him on the phone in the middle of the night and my mom invited him over to and my dad saw. Yes he was mad and furious but he didn't show it cause my mom was right there, but i know how he was feeling. I told him i can't stop seeing him, he told me either i pick the man who gave me shelter, food, and clothing or that other kid, i didn't say anything back. Yea okay my step dad did give me shelter , food, and clothing, but my parents can never give me the attention i need like my boyfriend. Now last night my boyfriend came over to my house and i got caught again this morning ,but this time my door was locked but my step dad wouldn't stop banging on the door till i opened it. I hid him underneath the blanket on my floor and piled it up with all my clothes i washed, i couldn't hide him in the closet cause he knows thats where i used to hide him. I was going to open the door but i forgot i didn't have any pants, so i put some pants on and opened my door, he looked in my closet and checked everywhere, then he asked me why did it take so long to open my door then he looked in the blanket and the big pile of clothes, and there you go ! I got busted! He told him to get out then he started screaming, my dad pushed me in the head, then he pushed my boyfriend out the door and he told him "I'm calling the cops! Then he looked at me pushed me in the head, "And you! "Your going to Juvinenille!!!! I went back in my room got my jacket then i took off runnning, then i began running after my boyfriend , he stopped and he asked me, you okay? I was just so glad i had him holding me in his arms. I didn't want to go home so we sat for a while thinking of what might happened. He told me , the more your dad tries to seperate us the more we are just going to try too see each other. I need my boyfriend i swear to god i'll go crazy without him. One time at the park i started screaming and crying because he wouldn't tell me what was going on with him and the the only way i could get his attention was if i started cutting myself. Nothing got his attention untill he saw blood spilling all over the floor, i got scared for a second cause i wouldn't stop bleeding, and thats how much i care about him if i didn't have him i swear to god i would be dead by now. My parents already banned me from seeing my whole family, now what makes my dad think i'm going to stop seeing him, he knows he can't stop me, and i wont. He could call the cops on me he could kick me out, he could beat the crap out of me, he could tell my mom and she could send me to the phillipines (well she could try, i doubt it she will) they both could beat me till i die, but nothing is going to make me stop seeing him or loving him. My parents took away my aunts,uncles, cousins, grandparents, and now my dad is going to try to make me stop seeing my boyfriend? No! i don't think so , he took it way too far? Can my dad really stop me from seeing my boyfriend????? Plz tell me
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Ray P.

[Jennifer]

Of course he can, if my dad found my boyfriend in my bed at your age, he would have flipped and done the same thing and you didn't even give your dad an ounce of respect by sneaking your boyfriend right back into his house when he told you not too. You might have had some wiggle room if you pretended to play by the rules, but you didn't do it that way. Your dad is doing what he thinks is right for you even if you do not think so.

If you want my opinion, lay off having your boyfriend come over for awhile and let things cool off.

[prelandra14]

trust me i dont think he'd be sneaking in my house for a while. but i mean my boyfriend is like the closest friend i have, is there anyway i could convince my dad to like atleast see him or talk to him at times at least, i know it will take a while but as long as he doesnt keep me away from him
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Ray P.

[Jennifer]

i would lay low for alittle, its not that your dad doesn't like your boyfriend, he is competition to him and you broke a trust. work on regaining his trust and then you can work on rebuilding the relationship. that is the right thing to do, if you do it or not is up to you.

[prelandra14]

okay crap now my mom found out, now they both don't want me seeing him at all. I feel like im going crazy i'll try being patient for now, but do you think they'll ever accept him being with me???
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Ray P.

[Jennifer]

Like i said previously, it is not him that is the problem, it was your actions that they were not happy about. Treat them with respect and do what you need to do for now and time heals all wounds. In a bit, your boyfriend can do the right thing and ask your parent's permission to date you and take you out on dates, no sleeping in the same bed with the door closed, not going to work out for you.