HELP WITH MY BROTHER BRING UP MY PAST AS IT WAS BAD

[katyrob27]

HI, I AM WRITING BECAUSE I CAME FROM A DISFUNSINAL FAMILY DAD AA AND I WAS ABUSE AS A CHILD SO I HAD ALOT ISSUE, I WENT FOR HELP AND THEY PUT BE ON MED. FOR CHEM. IN BALANCE AND I WAS DOING GOOD UNTIL, MY BROTHER, HIS GIRLFRIEND TOLD ME HE WAS DYING AND SINCE HE HAD NO ESLE TO GO, I TOLD HIM TO COME UP HERE WITH US, SO HE CAN BE WITH HIS FAMILY. WELL HE DID AND HE HAS BIG ISSUE, HE NEVER DELT WITH HIS ABUSE, HE IS A AA AND WE GAVE HIM A JOB AND HE WORK OUT FOR ALITTLE, AND THEN HE STOLED 50.00 FROM ONE OF THE ACCOUNTS,AT IRST HE LIED AND THEY HAD PICTURE OF HIM DOING IT,SO I LOST THE ACCOUNT AND NOW HE BRINGS UP SO MANY THINGS FROM THE PAST, HE REMIND ME OF MY DAD SO MUCH, I LOVE MY DAD BUT I DON'T WANT TO BE AROUND HIM. BECAUSE HE NEVER CHANGE. I TOLD HIM THAT HE HAD TO GO FOR HELP OR GET OUT, HE IS IN A GROUP 6 WEEKS 3HOURS AND DAY. AND I DON'T NO WHAT WHAT GOS ON BECAUSE I NOT THERE, HE QUIT DRINKING BUT FOR NOW, BUT I NEED HELP DEALING WITH HIM A DON'T WANT TO GO BACKWARDS AND LOSE ALL THAT WORK I PUT INTO THIS BUT HE PUSHING MY BUTTOMS, ANY FEED BACK THAT COULD HELP ME THANK YOU [/list][/code][/quote][/u][/i][/b]

[Jennifer]

You say that he is dying? Of what and is he getting medical help. Since you gave him the get help or get out, what has he done? What would be worse for you, having him around or kicking him out?

Are you married? What does your husband say about all of this? I can understand your situation and it is not a pleasant one to be in. In this life, we alway have to put ourselves first before others in order to help others. If you are unable to help your brother because you are falling apart, then it would seem useless to have him in your life because then both of you will be falling apart.