anxiety

[psbmd]

I find that I get anxious with just the most minor events. How best to deal with this

[Jennifer]

Hello:
What do you mean that you get anxious? Sometimes we feel something when we are faced with a new situaiton and once we can overcome that feeling, it is not so bad. Is this anxiousness keeping you from doing what you want to do?

[BLUE]

I ALSO FIND MYSELF GETTING EXTREMELY ANXIOUS WITH THE SLIGHTEST STREES OR CONFRONTATIONS. HOW DO I GET CONTROL OF THIS?

[Jennifer]

There is an old saying "Don't sweat the small stuff, it is all small stuff." We all have to handle so much durning the day and to get upset about each thing will put us over the edge. If you even want you can choose what you want to get upset/anxious about each day and then you can stay calm for the rest of the day.

[stressed]

I feel like I may suffer from anxiety as well as I believe that I am overwhelmed. I really need help and it feels like I at an edge sometimes.

[Jennifer]

Can you expand on that? Tell us more about what you mean so we can help.

[stressed]

well I feel like I keep making the same mistake one after the other and I am afraid to make any more efforts.

I am a mother with four children, and this is my second marriage. My first marriage turned to a big mess. I never had help with my ex. He only came around every blue moon to get back with me. we get divorced and I get remarried (with blinders on) to my second husband and I now find out that he is really suffering from some metal issues. Close to a form of autism but he has not been diagnosised yet. I also had on child my oldest diagnosis with autism when he was five and my other three children just got a diagnosis of autism and ADHD. My husband is really nice to the point he can be easily taken advantage of. So I really worry about him. I also worry about him losing his job because he just recently told me that he left he jobs in the past because he was about to get fired. It is all do to the fact because of his disability, he cannot perform the duties he should . Also I lost my most recent job because I needed to be there for my children. I have been in and out of phycatrist and therapist for my children. Because of the state my husband is in, I have to carry the burden of the bills, health, food, etc and it is really draining me. I have done things last year that I was totally not proud of because of so much pressure. I have been so depressed that now I can't even sleep at night. Don't get me wrong I love my husband but it is hard to deal with finding out he has a problem and it brings more burden more than anything.

[stressed]

Last year I was having so many problems with my husband, I looked up my exhusband so I could get at least some finanial help from him if anything. It was the first time we talked in over 5 years. But when he came it just made matters worse. He was struggling with a lot of issues and in and out of the hospital for mental situations. He diagnosis was severe depression, OCD and they are leading towards personality disorder. I also found out he is a composive liar and he cannot be trusted on bit. He tried to break up my marriage with my husband so him and I could get back together. But I didn't want that and he has spreaded lies on me and now don't come around anymore to see the kids. So they are really hurting even more. I have not one person to talk to about this.

[Jennifer]

Well, the good news is that you do not suffer from any mental disorder. You have ALOT of stress in your life that gets compounded daily. Anxiety is a higher form of stress and when your body cannot deal with what is going on anymore, it tries to warn you of what is going on. Then your body actually gets mad at you. For example, I grind my teeth when I am too stressed out. I do not know when I am stressed, but my body tells me and I have to respond. Sounds like you can be getting disability help for your husband and your children, are you? Each state is different, but if you are going at it alone, there is no reason too. You can apply for benefits and even get someone to come to your house each week so you can get out of the house. Hope this helps a little, but you need to get some resources on your side in order to make this work for you. That is a burden you are carrying.

[nicole0914]

Is it normal for a 15 year to have anxiety attacks, because my daughter keeps telling me that she gets this panicy feeling when someone is yelling at someone or someone is fighting and if someone is getting down on her and she tells me that she starts sweating and shaking and starting to get out of breath when this happens and it happens at school alot, what can I do for her or tell them at school what to do?

[nicole0914]

Is there any medication that I would mention to the doctor, or should I just tell them what has been happening to her at school? I don't really think she is trying to get attention she is an only child so we pay attention to her all the time and we've recently had someone pass away in our family, my brother to be exact and they were really close could that have any affect on her having panic attacks?

[Jennifer]

You would need to take her to a psychatrist. If she is having panic attacks she would benefit from talking to someone as well. If you cannot afford therapy, how about a school counselor. Panic attacks occur due to overwhelming stress in their life that has not been dealt with properly. Could be the death or something else or a combination. The doctors should know what to put her on, but she is going to need to talk about this as well.

[Jennifer]

Check out this website as well http://www.attackanxiety.org/