- Jennifer Baxt, LMFT, LMHC
- Therapy Related
The one thing that we can be sure of in this life is death. No matter how healthy we are, or the lifestyle that we live, we will all die at some point. Just as inevitable as this is, we will all face losing someone that we love someday as well simply because death is inevitable. As depressing as this can be, death really is a part of the life cycle. Unfortunately, for those of us left behind to grieve, it is hard to get a grasp on that reality. For this reason, grief counseling may be a good idea.
When someone dies, we feel an overwhelming sense of loss and helplessness. Depending on the relationship with the person who has passed on, that sense of loss may run so deeply that the services of a grief therapist may be necessary to help you get on with your life even though it is terribly hard to think about getting on with life without the person that you have lost.
A grief counselor will help the person to talk about the person who has died, and discover whether their reaction to the death is normal or extreme. In grief counseling, you will learn that anger, guilt, and an entire range of other emotions is normal during the grieving period. By keeping these emotions bottled up, because you feel that you should not be feeling them, you will find that the grief continues on. In grief therapy, you will be able to freely express those feelings and deal with them, so that you can get through the grieving process.
The grief therapist will help you to discover your true feelings and express them. They will also help you to emotionally separate yourself from the loved one who has passed on so that you do have the ability to move forward. The grief counselor will help you to cope with your feelings, and even help you to establish a new relationship with the person that has died.
Grief counseling will also help you to keep functioning in your day to day life, and also to remain healthy. Not taking care of yourself and ceasing to function in your day to day life is one of the biggest hurdles of the grief process for many people. This is because we see that life will be different without our loved one. Through grief counseling, however, and with the help of a good grief therapist, we learn that while life for us will be different, it is far from over.