Avoiding Divorce... At What Cost
- Mack M
Sure, you have done some things wrong in your relationship, but you didn't force your unfaithful spouse to cheat - they CHOSE to do it. And understanding THAT is the key to unlocking the secret to saving your marriage and avoiding divorce if it has been devastated by infidelity or...
Infidelity causes unnecessary pain, hurt and depression, and leaves one or both spouses feeling bewildered and wondering what to do. And the worst part is that it wasn't even necessary in the first place ... marital infidelity was a mistaken attempt on the unfaithful spouse's part to find something they thought was missing in their existing relationship. But here's the most important thing you need to understand: Infidelity isn't your fault at all! That's right -- infidelity is NOT YOUR FAULT.
At some point, it happens to everyone... You wake up one day and suddenly your once, blissful relationship is shattered. The spark is gone. And the love of your life wants nothing to do with you. Look, there's no such thing as a perfect marriage. Life isn't all sunshine and rainbows. But a happy marriage is a very real thing, and you deserve to avoid divorce and enjoy a happy, healthy marriage.
You remember the feelings you shared when you first fell in love. When it was impossible to look at each other without smiling. Just spending time alone together was the perfect night. And the animal attraction between the two of you... It is extremely possible to avoid divorce and reclaim those long lost, taken for granted feelings. Almost everyone encounters some sort of marriage problem from time to time. The reason is simple: You are given absolutely no training! In every other area of human development, we are given some formal training.
That's right, on average, one of out every two couples that marries will no longer be together "until death do they part". How do you think it might change weddings if the people involved realized that, without serious effort, there was a 50% chance that that couple would wind up so miserable that they would regret the wedding they now eagerly plan together?
Most importantly, to avoid divorce, start communicating. Unless you talk, you can never work things out. Keep in mind that good communication does not mean yelling, it means talking as adults. Therefore, take time so the two of you can sit down face-to-face to discuss the current situation, regardless of the problem.