How do you make friends?
As is true with most things in life, each individual differs from the next in how they live or exist from one day to the next in what they do for work, what they prefer to do for fun and how social they are. Humans are naturally social beings and it is often assumed that everyone has friends. While many do have friends, whether their friends are from work, school or surrounding homes, there are others who do not seem to know anyone or have any kind of a social life at all. It may seem odd to the social butterflies, but it is all too familiar to those who prefer to be left alone to live their lives.
Life can be lonely, long and boring if one only focuses on work and home. There is nothing wrong with going out and having a good time; however, there are many who are either too shy to go out, or they feel they are not going to be accepted by anyone. The truth is that while it is not necessary to have hundreds of friends, having a friend or two could help make life a little more enjoyable and interesting. Communicating with others can help to change things up a bit, offer something to look forward to after a long week of work and even include a little fun in ones life. Those who have never really been too social may not realize they are missing something, some may even feel that going out and socializing is a waste of time that can be better spent doing something else. Unfortunately, they will never know if they refuse to give it a try. As mentioned before, humans are social animals, so those who are not overly social may begin to feel a little depressed or they may feel that something is missing in their lives. Lack of socialization can also hurt a persons self-esteem or self-confidence as they begin to feel more out of sink with the rest of the world around them. Lack of socialization could also mean not being noticed for a promotion at work, or not being noticed in life at all.
Those who have not been overly social in their lives may want to move out of their comfort zone and find some friends, but may not be entirely sure on how to go about this. It may seem a little extreme for some, but contacting an online counselor could be quite helpful for those looking to get out of their shell. After learning a bit about you, the online therapist will understand how difficult a step it can be for one new to the social scene. It is nothing to feel embarrassed about; in fact, some online counseling can help a person build the confidence they need in order to go out and meet some new people. The online counselor may even offer some online therapy in steps in order to get the individual familiar with the idea of being around a large group of people without hiding in a corner.