Should you stay or go in your relationship?

There comes a time in many relationships, whether a couple are just dating, are engaged, have been married for a short time or have been together for many years, when the question may arise of whether a person should stay and try to work with their relationship or leave. Most would say that this is, in most cases, a difficult decision where one or both parties involved may be weighing the pros and cons of staying together in order to determine what course of action would be the best for them to make. Rarely is this an easy decision, especially for couples who were strongly attached in the beginning.

Humans are hardly a rational or logical race when it comes to any number of things. One of the biggest reasons for this is that humans, both male and female, regardless of whether they want to admit it or not, base most of their decisions and choices on how they feel. Call it intuition, instinct or a gut feeling; emotions play one of the largest roles when making decisions, especially when it comes to relationships. It is hard to be completely rational or even a little logical for many, because it is ultimately the emotions, or feelings that bring a couple together. Think about how people talk about their relationships, about what makes the relationship a good or bad one. It all comes down to how a person feels about the relationship they are in; about how the relationship makes them feel inside. Good relationships will often make a person feel happy, content and secure, while a bad relationship can make a person feel helpless, frustrated, upset, depressed, and even frightened.

When first considering whether one should stay or leave, the individual must first put some thought into whether their relationship makes them happy or not. If it, for the most part, makes the person happy and content, then the next step should be figuring out what they can do in order to improve on the troubled relationship to make it work. Staying and making it work should be the first action a person considers if their relationship has the potential to be a good one that can grow and become better. If the relationship doesn’t make a person happy, and they feel only sadness, upset, or fear, the first thought should be whether or not the relationship can be turned around. This, of course, depends greatly on the situation and what it is that is causing the relationship to be an unhealthy one. If it is a situation that can be worked on so that both parties can change their ways, are both willing to work on improving their relationship so that it can become something better that will last a long time, then it is definitely a situation where it would be worth the effort to stay and work with it.

Regardless of the situation or the stage of the relationship, it is always a good idea to seek some counseling when doubt about the relationship begins to build. Many couples will seek some online counseling or online therapy in order to get some guidance in determining whether they are best being together or apart. An online counselor is an impartial party that can give unbiased advice or suggestions to the troubled couple. By speaking with an online therapist, a couple can quickly determine whether they prefer to give up on the relationship, or if they are up to the idea of making it work.