How do you build confidence in your children?
- Jennifer Baxt NCC, DCC
Poor self-esteem and low confidence can have a huge impact on how a child mentally develops, in how they interact with other students at school and how they do academically in school. It could cause marks to fall, cause depression to develop, cause one to become withdrawn and lead to problems in developing the social life. Parents can work with their children to deal with low self-esteem and poor confidence so that the children can have a more positive experience at school. Helping them to build their confidence can go a long way to improving their marks and to better prepare them for their transition from child to adult.
It is clear that a caring parent would want to help their child to build good self-esteem and a higher level of confidence, but many will wonder how this can be done. There are a number of things that parents can do that can help in building a childs confidence up. First, a parent can try and provide opportunities for their child to do something successfully. Putting effort into something and being successful at it will do a lot to boost a childs confidence because they feel they have the ability to do something right. They will feel that if they can do that successfully, then they could probably accomplish other things successfully. Building a childs confidence also means doing ones best to make them feel safe and secure in their home, as well as to feel confident in themselves. They need to be able to trust in their own judgments and feel that they can easily make the right decisions on their own. Praise and encouragement will also go a long way in building a childs confidence, because it makes them feel good about themselves and, again, they feel that they can do something right. Working on building a childs confidence will also require some patience, because a lack of patience on the parents part will only push the child away.
While parents can do their best to help their child to build confidence and good self-esteem at home, helping to build the confidence and self-esteem in the school atmosphere can be difficult because they cant be there. What they can do is to show understanding and support for their child and help them to deal with difficulties at school as best as they can; however, if things at school get a little too out of control to the point where the child appears to be developing some depression, they should think about online therapy. It is not uncommon for children with low self-esteem and confidence to be bullied at school or to have difficulty in developing a social life. Contacting an online therapist who can talk with the child can give the child the chance to clearly express the difficulties they are experiencing at school. Through online counseling, the online therapist will then work with the child to learn how to deal with the issues at school, as well as help them become more confident in themselves while dealing with the issues.